Six Ways to Make People Like you. If you want people to
like you…………
Rule 1: Become Genuinely interested in other people
Quote: "Do this and you will be welcome anywhere"
"You can make more friends in two month by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."
"Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering."
Reflection: What this rule means is that in order to make new friends you have to be interested in what they like to do rather than what you are interested in. If you are interested in what other people like to do, then more people will like you. This rule would help you make many friends. The more friends you have the better your life is. For example, if you meet someone who likes sports, then you can ask them questions about sports that he/she likes. I would apply this to my life by being more interested in other people.
Ru;e2: Smile
Quote: "Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, "i like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you."
"You don't feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile."
"It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends."
Reflection: Remembering people's names can come in handy. If you can remember someones name, they will like you.This means that it is recommended that you remember peoples names to build better relationships with others. If you forget someones name, they will feels they mean nothing to you and they may find this very disrespectful. They will feel you did not pay attention when they introduced themselves to you and may be angry at you because of this.
Rule 4: Be a good listener, Encourage others to themselves.
Rule 5: Talking in terms of the other man's interest.
Quote: "The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."
Reflection: This means that to be able to get closer to someone we should talk about what they are interested in the most. We cannot get closer to someone if we just talk about ourselves all the time. We must interest them by talking in terms of their interest. For example, if someone loves golf, it would be a good idea to talk about the sport and make them feel you interested in what they have to say. Just talking about yourself makes others dislike the conversation and want to end it quickly, where as showing interest and enthusiasm makes them want to continue conversation.
Rule 6: Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely.
Quote: "The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature." "Helping people feel important and appreciated worms magic."
Reflection: This rule tells me that we should not make conversations about us. We should make the person who we are talking to feel special, make them feel we are interested in only them. If we make them feel that we are not interested, then they will feel there is no point in talking to you.
Reflection: All these rules will help you get friends easier. Rather than talking about yourself, we should show interested in the new person you've met. Never talk about yourself at first, they care very little about your problems, talk about them and let them know you are listening to them. Make them feel important, do not bring up others making them seem more important than them. Doing that makes them uninterested in talk, thinking it is not worth it if they aren't as special as others are to you.
Quote: "Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, "i like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you."
"You don't feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile."
"It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends."
Reflection: To smile. what does this mean? How can this help me? Do i need to smile? How do you smile? Can i make friends by smiling? Smiling means to be happy. Smiling can help you a lot in life because you come off more playful with others. You do not need to smile, but if you don't smile then you look like a mean person. Smiling is very simple to do, all you do is make the ends of your mouth go up with the muscles in your face. It takes less muscles to smile than it does to frown. If you are always smiling them people will think you are a nice person and if people think you are a nice person then they will most likely want to be your friend. For example. Of you are walking down a street and you see two men one is smiling and the other is not, which one do you think is more friendly? If you picked the person who was smiling then you are correct, I would apply this to my life by smiling until the day Jonathan takes a dirt nap.
Rule 3: Remember Names
Quote: "A man's name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language."
"If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble."
Reflection: Remembering people's names can come in handy. If you can remember someones name, they will like you.This means that it is recommended that you remember peoples names to build better relationships with others. If you forget someones name, they will feels they mean nothing to you and they may find this very disrespectful. They will feel you did not pay attention when they introduced themselves to you and may be angry at you because of this.
How to remember names
- Focus on the person
- Repeat their name aloud.
- Ask a question
- Repeat his or her name silently
- Make a vivid association between their name and something familiar to you.
- Conclude the interaction with his or her name
Quote: "If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener."
"Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems."
Reflection:This
means that we should not talk about ourselves when we talk with others.
We should hear what they have to say and not interrupt their sentences
as they speak. They are not interested in you problems, they are more
interested in themselves. We should be able to listen and ask about them
not about ourselves. 
FIVE ACTIVE LISTENING TIPS
- stay focus
- Really listen
- Allow for periods of silence
- Repeat words or paraphrase back to others.
- Understand the emotion behind the words
Rule 5: Talking in terms of the other man's interest.
Quote: "The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."
Reflection: This means that to be able to get closer to someone we should talk about what they are interested in the most. We cannot get closer to someone if we just talk about ourselves all the time. We must interest them by talking in terms of their interest. For example, if someone loves golf, it would be a good idea to talk about the sport and make them feel you interested in what they have to say. Just talking about yourself makes others dislike the conversation and want to end it quickly, where as showing interest and enthusiasm makes them want to continue conversation.
Rule 6: Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely.
Quote: "The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature." "Helping people feel important and appreciated worms magic."
Reflection: This rule tells me that we should not make conversations about us. We should make the person who we are talking to feel special, make them feel we are interested in only them. If we make them feel that we are not interested, then they will feel there is no point in talking to you.
Reflection: All these rules will help you get friends easier. Rather than talking about yourself, we should show interested in the new person you've met. Never talk about yourself at first, they care very little about your problems, talk about them and let them know you are listening to them. Make them feel important, do not bring up others making them seem more important than them. Doing that makes them uninterested in talk, thinking it is not worth it if they aren't as special as others are to you.
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